That's something i really got to remember. Memories can be altered. Memories, can be false.
"What we remember changes each time we recall the event. The slightly changed memory is now embedded as “real,” only to be reconstructed with the next recall" The main reason why i don't try to recall and retell stories most of the time for any negative issues. Because as time goes by, you forget the events of the story. Based on your recall and retell, the emotions you felt then, and the emotions evoke in your audience, those are the factors that will alter your memory and reconstruct the now 'real' memory. "To each retelling, there are attached emotional details" And i reckon these details change, either intensifying or lessening. That is why i don't trust story retells. Memories are usually mine, and mine alone. I chose to forget the unhappy ones and intensify the fun/ happy ones. Not everyone does that, and i guess i shouldn't expect everyone to do that. But if we could, the world would probably be a much happier place. I never understood why some people would want to/ choose to/ allow themselves to hold on to something that hurts them. And i really want to know the logic behind that. Is that thing worth the hurt to hold on for? Wouldn't you wanna resolve something that hurts you? If you can't resolve it, wouldn't letting go be a better choice than holding on? The downward spiral is real. When you allow yourself to hold on to something negative, it eats into you. You'll spiral down until you can't see what you're holding onto. You'll only feel the darkness and you forget the reason why you go down in the first place. And honestly? It's a tough climb back up. Emotions aren't bad. I just can't afford it. Block or absorb.
